Happy Thanksgiving ya’ll!!! It’s been almost 5 years that I started blogging. Crazy how quickly time goes by. This years been full if surprises, mostly good ones. I’ll be moving this weekend. This new place will be new and exciting. Somewhere I planned versus somewhere I just ended up in. The moving part is killing me but I’m ready to start a new chapter. Ill be closer to my family and to my boyfriend. Ahhhh…..
Remember I said I met a guy. Well this month marks 7 months that we’ve been together. Is it lame to keep count? Anyway, long story short, we met on tinder this past summer. Tinder of all places. I never would’ve guessed that I would meet someone I could actually fall in love with.
He is the sweetest man. Not like that cheesy I’ll-feed-you-bullshit kinda sweet, but that genuine I care for you, I adore you kinda sweet. The strange part is, he doesn’t look the part. He’s quiet, reserved and to others may come off as an asshole or to “good” to talk to you, but I found this other said. The side that holds my face and tells me he loves me. The side that catches him staring at me while he’s trying to hide his grin. The side that would run to my aide at the mention of needing help. It feels genuine. Free. Full of hope and love. I feel so lucky. Things are easy. Conversation flows like water and even in silence there’s a comfort in just being next to each other. And the sex….well it’s pretty amazing. Like really really good ya’ll.
Sometimes it feels a little surreal. He met Judah last month and I met his kiddos this month. I wanted to wait a while to make sure we protected the hearts of the kiddos. My kiddo loves him and he seems to get along well with Judah. His kiddos are teenagers, sweet and well mannered. I try to play it cool but deep down I want them to like me. I’ve given them thier space and moved slowly to give them time to get used to me. All of this makes me so happy.
Im excited to see what 2016 has in store for us. Till next time.
Let me first start by saying thank you to those who still follow. It’s been a while since I’ve written but it’s not for lack of material. Life has just been crazy.
It official now, I’m now a mom of a four year old. Where has the time gone? I feel like it was just yesterday that I was praying for a positive pregnancy test. Sometimes i look at him and wonder how I was so lucky to be his mom. He is smart and caring. He has an a amazing imagination and is so creative. I cant believe that in less than a year he will be a kindergartner. I hope and pray that I am leading him in the right direction. I have to admit that sometimes I fear that I’m lacking something, that not having his father under the same roof will somehow change who he should have been. Hopefully that will change soon. But speaking of men…I met a guy!
Yes there’s a guy, I guess that explains a little of my absences as well. He’s really great. ..but more about him later.
I don’t know how I got this far. But my heart is happy. I’m at peace with the way things my life have turned out.
The good, the bad, and the ugly.
Your birthday is only two months away baby. I cannot believe how big you are getting. We went to the park and you were picking flowers for me. I love you more than any words I could ever use. You are so kind and caring and I’m proud to be your mommy.
Life has calmed down so much. We are happy. You are happy. Your favorite thing to say is -I was thinking about you mommy- you definitely know how to melt my heart. Years ago I was so scared about raising you without your daddy in the same house.
But today I’m proud to say that we got this. I would not trade the time I have with you for anything in the world.
Favorite food- sausage and eggs, you could eat this everyday. For every meal.
Favorite song- Centuries by FallOutBoy
Favorite place to sleep- “in my back” as you say. You love to curl up behind me in my bed. You sneak in almost every night. I pretend that I mind but I actually love having you sleeping next to me.
I love you! I love the person I’ve become because of you.
After my son was born I pretty much settled my heart on only having one child. Not because I only wanted one but because we struggled to have Judah. After trying for a couple of years, we turned to IVF for help. According to an IVF calculator our chances for a pregnancy the first time was 32%, that number dropped to 10%-20% being that there was only one egg being transferred.
I was terrified. I used to lie awake at night praying, hoping that everything was okay early on in the pregnancy. Because of all that we went through we decided that we would adopt.
Fast forward to now. Im divorced. Not dating anyone. Ha, there’s not even someone on the radar. But the other night I was sitting with my almost 4 year old son and he turns and asks me if he could have a brother. 😦 my heart broke. I grew up in a big family and loved it. I feel bad that he doesn’t have any siblings. I wish he did. I see him sometimes in his room playing by himself and I wish he had someone to giggle with, to be his side kick, to grow old with.
Who knows. Maybe one day, hopefully soon, I’ll meet that gentle man that will love me and maybe give me that big family I’ve always wanted.
March will mark the two year anniversary of my divorce. I can’t believe that I made it through. But here I am. Living. Happy. Blessed. for the most part at least.
A few months ago my ex decided that he wanted to try and see if things could work out between us. He swore that he was genuine and that he really missed me….ect. I was reluctant at first only because it took me so long to get over the pain of our divorce but I decided that for the sake of my son. I would give it one last try. Things started off a little rocky at first just because we’ve been separated for so long and really didn’t know how to act around each other. But things were going good. Or so I thought. Fast forward to now…. we are no longer together. Again. Too many things have changed and too many things have not and I am okay with that.
Im happy with where I am. With who I am. I will no wait for him to grow up. I will not force things. I will not be with someone who doesn’t show me the love I know I deserve. I will move forward. I will fall in love one day.
I cannot believe it’s been almost 1 year
since the last time I posted. It’s been too long. There is so much that has gone on in the last year. There were rought times, sad times, tears of sadness and of joy. My baby will be 4 in a couple of months and it just doesn’t seem real. The way time passes. So quickly.
Losing weight finally
Leaning to enjoy the little things
Realized my worth