Well get to the moving in part in a sec. First off great news, I got a job offer! I received a call the end of last week and I am so excited. The job won’t start till the middle of January so I have a few more weak to enjoy with my baby.
Christmas is great I got to spend it with some family and my son. It was definitely a lot better than last years Christmas. Holidays are getting just a little bit more manageable. But Christmas didn’t come without drama.
Couple days before Christmas I was out shopping late so I called my sons dad and ask if you could say one more night with him. He recently moved out of his apartment and was supposed to move in with his brother temporarily. Well that night I found out that he decided to move in with his girlfriend. I was upset, because I’m not that comfortable with my son living with someone he’s only known for a couple of months.
I was actually surprised. We’ve only been divorced since March. But anyway, at the end of our conversation I asked to speak with my son. The second I asked he tried to get off the phone with me. I know when he’s lying. He said that my son was in the car with his girlfriend. So I asked him again where my son was. And that’s what he told me he left him alone at the apartment . With his girlfriend.
I couldn’t believe that he would be so dumb as to leave our 2.5 yo son with someone who he has only known for a few months and who has not really been around my kiddo. I couldn’t even talk to him. I hung the phone and I was so angry and upset. Call me a crazy overprotective mom there a lot of crazy people out there that do really sick hurtful things to kids.
I hung up the phone with him. And he call me back a couple of times and left some crazy messages saying that he trusted her and that I just needed to get over it. I know that he’s moving on, but its so hard to trust someone that you don’t even know to be around your baby. We haven’t spoken since.
Had a long chat with my parents. They listen to me and all that I had to say and then give me their wonderful words of wisdom. That I just have to trust that I have to trust him. And that I have to trust God first and foremost for his safety.
I don’t know what to do. I really feel like I should talk to her. But honestly I don’t even know what to say to her. Besides the fact that I would rain all types of Hell on her if she ever hurt my baby. 😦
When we divorced, we promised that if there was someone who was serious enough to bring around our son that we would introduce this person to one another. Yes, I know that this may seem a little weird to some but in my defense, my son is still little. He was only a year and a half old when we separated. I really was nervous about having him around someone being that he was so little and couldn’t really vocalize if he was being hurt in any way.
Two weekends ago my son came home as usual, then ran to the window at our balcony and was yelling “daddy..jj..daddy..jj”. And I was like ‘oh helllllll no’ my baby has been around some woman enough to remember her name. My son is two and a half. Anyway later that day I messaged my ex and asked if there was someone that my son has been around lately named JJmand he said that this woman was a friend… but later said that she was a girlfriend and that she had met my son. I asked if I could meet her, just to see her face, to give her that “if you touch my baby there will be hell to pay look”. I wanted her to know that I was in the picture.
Last week I went for an interview (I looked great…hair curled, makeup done and most importantly there were no Cheetos hand prints on my shirt from a two year old) After the interview I went to pick up some money from my sons dad. We agreed to meet down the street and he let me know that he would be bringing his girlfriend so we could meet and in his words” get to know each other and say whats up”. -.- Ummmm how about no. I just needed her to see my face and for her to know I could go bat shit crazy on her if need be. Okay so I’m sitting there in the parking lot of a QuickTrip waiting on him. I was nervous. I wanted to drive away. I wasn’t ready for this yet but here I was. So they pull up, we stay in our cars and he gives me the money. “this is jj…” to which I reply a very generic nice to meet you. Her reply; (in a very annoying, overly excited, we’re going to be BFFs voice) oh hi… nice to meet you!! I wish we were out of the car so I could hug you… I’m a hugger!!! WHAT THE HELL!! I’m a puncher bioch so back the hell up. It must have been the look I gave her that made her sit back in her seat.
I mean who does that??? Really. I quickly said goodbye and drove away. I was annoyed. I didn’t know if she was just being a jerk or if she really is that dumb to think that I would greet her with open arms.
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On a more positive note, the interview went great!!